How to Choose a Memorial Pendant or Ashes Necklace

Choosing a memorial pendant is a tender decision. It’s not just about style or jewellery — it’s about finding something that feels right for you, something that holds meaning, comfort, and a quiet connection to someone you love.

This gentle guide will help you explore the different options and understand what might feel right for your heart and your daily life.

Why Choose a Memorial Pendant?

A memorial pendant or ashes necklace is worn close to the heart, which is why many people feel naturally drawn to it. It can be a private, personal way to keep someone close — something you can touch, hold, or simply know is there.

Some people choose a pendant because they want something subtle. Others choose it because it feels comforting to have that closeness. There’s no right or wrong reason — only what feels like you.

Different Styles of Memorial Pendants

There are many shapes and styles to choose from, and each one carries its own feeling.

Hearts

A classic choice, symbolising love, connection, and closeness. Hearts feel gentle and timeless.

Teardrops

Often chosen for their symbolism — a mix of sadness, love, and beauty. They feel elegant and meaningful.

Circles or Simple Shapes

Perfect if you prefer something understated. Circles represent eternity, continuity, and unbroken connection.

Nature‑Inspired Designs

Feathers, robins, flowers, or leaves — these can feel comforting if nature played a part in your loved one’s life or memories.

What Can Go Inside a Memorial Pendant?

Most pendants can hold:

• A tiny amount of ashes

• A lock of hair or fur

• Preserved flowers from a funeral or celebration of life

• Dried petals from a wedding bouquet

• A small piece of fabric or ribbon

You only ever need a very small amount. Any unused ashes are always returned safely.

Choosing the Right Metal

The metal you choose affects both the look and the feel of your pendant.

Sterling Silver

Bright, classic, and gentle on the skin. A lovely everyday option.

Gold or Gold‑Plated

Warm, traditional, and symbolic. Gold often feels more sentimental or heirloom‑like.

Stainless Steel

Durable, affordable, and ideal for people who want something strong and low‑maintenance.

Choose the metal that feels right for your style, your skin, and your memories.

How Visible Do You Want It to Be?

This is a deeply personal choice.

Some people want a pendant that others will notice — a piece that invites conversation or connection. Others prefer something small and private, known only to them.

Both choices are equally valid. Let your heart guide you.

A Gentle Note on Daily Wear

Most memorial pendants are suitable for everyday wear, but it’s always best to remove them for:

• swimming

• heavy work

• harsh chemicals

• lotions or perfumes

This helps keep your piece looking beautiful for years to come.

A Final Thought

Choosing a memorial pendant is an emotional decision, and it’s completely okay to take your time. You don’t need to know instantly. Sometimes the right piece simply “feels like them” when you see it.

If you’re unsure or would like gentle guidance, you’re always welcome to reach out. I’m here to help you find something that feels comforting, personal, and right for your heart.